finsup....Yes,, I am still in the building or should I say audio asylum (LOL) You make a very important about the issue of listening to the system or just enjoying the music. However, if what a listener hears is edgy in the highs, jumbled in the midrange on crescendo's, and raucous rock finales, or an a noticeable. incoherentcy of musical presentation across the board, then the listener may feel intuitively that it does not satisfy his general expectation. Without having to employ cornball cliques: you may not get that "peaceful easy feeling" from the music you worked to achieve.
This is NOT necessarily abdicating the music for some ideal of musical perfection by technological whizzerty . The "two" are tied and intertwined too closely together. This does not mean every listening session is a flop by not delivering that so called "peaceful easy feeling" because there are too many parameters that go into the a natural, or musical presentation of the medium; that is, from electrical hash in the AC outlet, or a disgruntled partner who just does not like the look, color,and shape of the speaker in the living room.
I think audiophiles or aspiring audiophiles who put in the hours of research, and trial and error auditioning realize listening to music requires a high degree of concentration so as to enter the flow of the music played, and the potential genius inherent in its structure. This focus is not some elitist pretension that many non audiophiles contend and accuse us; but, for the record, casual listeners, or listening while you work, or listeners passing through the room on the way to the kitchen or bathroom are at a deficit. I don't hear a thing when I listen casually or distracted, so I listen alone. No playing slap and tickle with the girlfriend, or watching the last segment of Dr. Phil while Beethoven,or the Allman brothers are wailing away at the peak of their musical creation.
I think you point deserves a separate thread, and I am sure the divergence of opinion will be great and at times caustic. Thanks for the comment!!