Bass sensation like a loud car system in home?

Wow you (audiophiles) have never taken the time to listen to a good car stereo! Take a look at the new DSP’s for car audio it’s come a long way. Educate yourselves first. Some people spend 200k on 2 towers some spend 200k designing door pillars with multiple drives. Then there’s the people that say we’re all idiots.
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id recommend multiple subs for equal response through the room but place a few directly behind the couch or anchored to the couch but decoupled from the floor to avoid extra resonances. 4 10” is all it takes. Tune them very low and you’ll get the pressure in your chest with out getting to loud. Use a minidsp hd to switch sound curves from rock concert to classical. I’d stay away from tactile transducers because they offer no SQ.

For relatively small money you can buy used 18" powered pro subs often dumped by a failed "DJ".  That should do it.

I can't understand why anyone would want "car sound" in a home... The home system SQ is SO far above any car system I've heard. I started bi-amping my car systems in 1976, but none can come close to what the home system sounds like. Good home subs are so much better than any car subs I have heard.

Great auto sound is much easier and less expensive than home hifi. If done well, you can use a single 10” JL Audio sub with custom crossovers and caps. Of course you need 3 way sound up front, and there are several ways to achieve that. Rear fill is just 2-way and only noticed when turned up too high. However, 3 two channel amps, dual subs with 6s,5s,4s,2s and tweeters in each door with the aforementioned rear fill will sound well beyond what most people in here have heard and the parts are not expensive in comparison to home audio. Granted, the installation in my ‘58 Chevy was $1,800, but those guys earned their money by building a custom hidden sub box under the rear deck that was covered by the amp rack, which featured completely hidden wiring, sunken red gel top Optima battery in the trunk and custom door speaker grills I copied off Shaq’s Testarossa Suburban, which they had done previously. They were one offs until I requested them. I had been given a mid build tour and the whole rundown on his mom trying to control his checkbook as a rookie and how he had scale the build back because of her meddling and how he then called from the set of his Nike commercial and said go with the big baller version etc. 
Anyhow, I’m a musician and was attending BIT at the time and briefly shipped the car to Orlando to use the store that I bought my Krell , B&O, Adcom and Fosgate gear for the custom car stereo. And you can bet the farm, it was worth it. The east coast was light years ahead of anything in SoCal at the time.  So called shops to the stars couldn’t visually build their way out of a wet paper bag at the time. Sonically, they were clueless. Some places are still there. But if you want impeccable auto sound, you can get it. You just have to know how to spell it out for them. But to say it doesn’t exist or that it shouldn’t be emulated in the home, just means you live somewhere that still hasn’t figured it out. 

bro, we hear you , I have 4 Buttkicker LFE in my couch on a QSC DJ amplifier mounted to the coils in my couch and it pumps , the cushions move up and down remotes fall off the couch. I also have 5 12 inch subs mounted in my couch (2 are kicker solos the square ones behind the back) on another dj amp you would love it  , i love using my buttkickers I rarely use my 12's cause my pb16s are much more cleaner and the 12's tend to drone, your not the only one looking for bass in a couch like a car system. I have 17,000 watts in my house system .you cant really talk about this to these people its frowned upon, you can talk shop here about your digital stream, stereo, amps but when it comes to sub bass they just dont get it and you will get a bunch of replies like if your system was good enough you wouldn't need all this bass, speaker position ,  , blah blah bunch of nonsense.. I got 2 DJ quality amps running my couch , a clean box to convert the RCA to XLR and its in my basement under my theater because they are noisy by nature and blow off allot of heat. theres allot of Bass Heads out there and im one of them for sure . I have 3-20a circuits 60amps total  and I have 60 amps because i needed it , I have 1 for my Furman 20amp 1 for my dual pb16's and 1 in the basement for the DJ amps. Im here because Its still a hobby for me and get ideas, It was a journey to get to this point I think I can lead you to the promise land Bass nirvana. allot of the parts for the couch were used and saved a bunch cause it was a project but at the end of the day I exceeded my expectations , Im also using this in my Home theater and run an AVR thats also frowned upon , this is a 2ch forum you won't get much from this crowd but light insults. let me know if you need help I truly have it all figured out and can save you some heartache and pain because Ive tried everything. 

As long as you live in an apartment, and this is an assumption on my part, what you ask for is a pipe dream. If you can " feel" the bass, your neighbor can too.

Move into a house ...

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@yukispier --

Actually I am just trying to be a courteous home owner and not have a house that can be heard down the block like a car with a nice system

So you do live in a house? Let’s be clear on that, because if you do there’s no reason you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

Since I’m not interested in have 140dB of bass in my home lets say SQ system. Clean and defined sub bass yet strong enough to cleanly vibrate through your body.

You don’t need Richter scale levels to vibrate through your body, but make up your mind here: if you want what you’re asking for - that is, sound quality and impact - be prepared to go the distance (i.e.: there’s no magic "feel the impact on your body without the near within-the-same-structure surroundings being affected," and you won’t get proper impact from tiny, decor-friendly subs). If your residential situation can accommodate it there’s no reason why you can’t achieve your goal.

My advice: forget about "buttkickers" - it’s a cheap and distracting trick, if you ask me. Visceral sensation is very much created through prodigious lower 30-ish Hz reproduction in particular, and with bass it’s relatively simple: ample displacement (meaning: a certain minimum of driver size and overall volume) and proper implementation, and with that quality of reproduction and felt impact naturally follows.

It seems to me your real problem isn’t the neighbors; it’s that you want felt bass impact from a soundbar. Moreover, if you do live in a separately situated house then 90-110dB SPL’s from capably implemented subs won’t affect the neighbors, even louder than that, and you’d definitely be able to feel it. A mono-couple DBA bass setup with likes of, say, four PSA S1512 sealed subs (fairly compact and quite powerful) would give a sensation of a impactful and rather smooth "inside your head" bass, not entirely unlike that experienced in a car (personally I prefer symmetrically placed, stereo-coupled subs, but that’s not subject here).