Being alone with your music

I’ve always enjoyed being alone. Being alone with my favorite tunes playing adds a new layer of ‘Being here NOW’.

I remember well the first time I heard ‘In my room’ by the Beach Boys. That wonderful angst of being young and not knowing my future overwhelmed me. Those emotions we’re trained to suppress burst forward, changing me forever.

From that moment forward music became a personal thing. A private wonderful world that I had control over. It was 1966, I was 13 years old.

When we’re young, very little is under our control. Now music could set us free. It was up there with the first time, 3 years later, when I drove my car alone the first time.  In preparation for the big moment, I installed my first car cassette player (by Norelco). Now I was truly free to be me.

Your stories would be much appreciated.



There was time my audio friends can’t stop reviewing my system? So I realize they are not honest. I closed my door from them for 5 yrs. And I learned a lot more doing things and listening alone.Even now I have to remind them , When they visit. No reviewing please😀

Meditating and praying in a cavern in the forest  appear anti-social...

But working for big pharma "for the good of humanity" appear a very social enterprise at first sight...

Guess which one is  anti-social  really ?

Listening music alone is not anti-social, drinking beers  with a group of  tired grown men speaking insanities may be....

Am i anti-social ?

I am like the Christ i love men one by one between 4 eyes  and i hate groups of any kind...


«I socialize first and last with myself»-- Groucho Marx 🤓

Sitting alone as a child in my room listening to music on my portable record player or old tube AM radio made me who I am today. And, of course, it made me a loner, someone totally self-sufficient, comfortable with my own company. Hail, hail rock-n-roll!

I almost always listen to music in solitude.

There are several reasons:

I am able to get more deeply into the music if I am alone.

I feel more free to change what I am listening to on a whim.

But mostly, because my tastes tends toward the progressive, avant-garde, intense, 'thorny' sounding. 

My wife's and my tastes overlap quite a bit. We both like standard prog quite a bit (Yes, Genesis, King Crimson, Anglagard, Echolyn, Gentle Giant, PFM, etc), but when I break out the more avant-garde stuff, I loose her (Henry Cow, Univers Zero, Thinking Plague, Art Zoyd, etc).''

She can also hang with Mahavishnu Orchestra, Weather Report, Brand X, Return o Forever, etc. But then, when I break out progressive and avant-garde jazz (John or Alice Coltrane, Albert Ayler, Pharaoh Sanders, Thomasz Stanko, Anthony Braxton, Michael Formanek, Tim Berne, etc), she's gone. 

She also doesn't stick around with atonal classical music (Elliott Carter, Bruno Maderna, Joan Tower, Magnus Lindberg, Berg, Anna Thorvaldsdottir, etc).


I’d say what grew my interest in music was the mp3 revolution. That really opened my ears to the enjoyment of music. The hobby of collecting the best possible combo of gears at a price point just came naturally thereafter.