My wife hated my Maggie 3.5R's. Her complaint was the size. Although the speakers are not deep, they do have a relatively large "face". After doing research I was prepared to accept the consequences of the trade. One Saturday we went on a speaker hunting marathon, it wasn't that bad there are only three stores that I would consider, with the last being my favorite dealer. We didn't critically listen to any speakers that day. We listened, but just to get a general idea of the sound. I was prepared to end up with a small moniter, but to my surprise she liked the black B&W 801's very much. At that time the Nautilus series was right around the corner and she also like the photo of the N802. We have been back to the store several times and she always asks about the N802, but I took the 801 III's rather than wait. After this long, boring story, my suggestion is to get her involved, make her feel as though her opinion is valuable. Use her opinion and work within her suggestions. Let her pick the color of the cabinet and the grille cloth. There are many great speakers avaliable, so you should be able to find something that does not upset her. Good Luck, Doug