Does someone’s opinion affect your opinion?

So I have a very nice turntable with a new MC cartridge which I liked and enjoyed…that is until someone said that the cartridge was very “piercing” and in his opinion almost unlistenable. Now I find I am not enjoying it as much. Two things to add, he is not anymore “golden ear” than me, and the brands are well known with good reviews. 
But now, I don’t enjoy it as much. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me, but it does and it has impacted my enjoyment.

So, has this happen to you and what did you do? 

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Well, your friend may be an ___ or a ____, but ’piercing’ has been let out of Pandora’ Box..

Once your confidence has had a hole drilled in it, it’s time to do your own critical evaluation, with music you are very familiar with, re-acquire assured love, restored confidence: or, hear what you might have been unaware of.

i.e. what familiar music do you take to audition equipment with? Among others, relative to your friend’s ’piercing’ comment:

I play Eurythmics, Sweet Dreams, which contains a lot of revealing highs. Helps mr make decisions when using my Tweeter’s L-Pads. Oh, that was there, very nice, or Jesus that’s too much.

Also: Barbra Streisand/Donna Summer Duet: No More Tears, Enough is Enough, the individual distinction of their voices is wonderous when revealed by a great cartridge/system.

Piano, content with full range. Violins,

Both of those, or music you are familiar with are enough for you to either fall in love again, or, hear something you never focused on, I’ll be dammmmmed, there is a piercing quality I missed, or he’s full of shiiiiiiiiiittttttte


What content suggestions to reveal ’piercing’ OR ’wonderful extension’???


Cartridge/Arm: Complete Proper Alignment?

Do you have the skills and the few tools to be assured all is physically correct for best results?

1. listen 'as is', that's what your friend commented on

2. double check/re-adjust for 'even better' than you were already hearing.


+1, @roxy54 

Another way to settle this quandary, go listen to his system. After which, you will know if you need to tweak or leave your system as is!