It's all about physical compression that happens in the speakers and the room itself that reveals playback vs. live experiences to our ear/brain and there is simply not much we can do about it. It's simply physics that imparts this limitation. Loud won't cut it, it just exacerbates the compression factor. Every room and speaker system has an optimal or maximal loudness level beyond which this compression just increases (usually experienced as "beaming" from the tweeter/midrange drivers). Most speakers have an enclosure or driver limitation, or both, beyond which compression increases logarithimcally and again, there's nothing we can do about it. Some absorption can help reduce phase cancellation and increase dynamic range in the room, but again, only so far.
I have simply accepted this and have learned that if I want live, I go see and hear live.
I have simply accepted this and have learned that if I want live, I go see and hear live.