speaker choice for new 20x30 audio room

I’d agree that if you can get into a decent sized Sonus Faber, they might be great for your listening preferences. The Sonetto VIII are pretty impressive. A nice used set of Olympica III would be even better. With the size of your room, I suspect that you’ll eventually move to something larger like the SF Stradivari Homage. Nice used sets of them do show up occasionally at great prices. Actually, there is a set of them right now on Agon for $20k.  This would be my dream speaker, if I had a room for them like you will.

I just went through a similar search.  My musical tastes are also similar, as is my room side (13x30 in my case).  I found Audiogon and other sites quite helpful in narrowing down my search and can see you’ve already gotten a some good recommendations.  But, and I strongly encourage this: select a few speakers or brands; then get out and audition them.  I really didn’t want to take that approach at first.  I ended up taking 4 different trips—or 15-20 hours of drive time before I found what I wanted.  In hindsight, it was incredibly satisfying.  I started with the goal of finding the perfect speaker for me, but ended up learning a ton about room treatments, proper set up, etc.  I also met some incredible people, learned about their interests, shared stories of amazing concerts they attended, and finally found a speaker I’ll be happy with for quite some time.  Life is a journey….there are rewards sprinkled along the path you travel.  Best of luck to you.  
 

Regards,

Give the Golden Ear Triton 1R a listen.

That is a huge room. But how close to the speakers will most of your listening be done?  Ie if you are going to be sitting 10-12 feet away, that is a huge difference from if you would typically listening from 20-25 feet away.

And it sounds like your top budget is $10K? Then I'm not sure why you're getting suggestions for the $20K range. 

Sounds like a perfect sized room for a nice used set of Klipschorns.