Thumper’s Mother


I’ve been a member here for years. Increasingly, the discussions are peppered with cutesy comments and criticisms that reek of attention seeking behavior. 

Please offer more respect to those around here that are innocent hobbyists. They are here to have fun talking about stereos, not be taken to task. I suspect you do it because this is your only available audience. 

These are people. Some are dealing with tragedy, heartache, loss and loneliness. They are trying to forget about troubles and mean people, not engage them. 

If you don’t like a post, or agree with a topic, or have a problem with sentence structure or punctuation, and can’t be helpful and respectful, keep your mouth shut and your hands in your pockets. Go start your own perfect discussion or seek out a narcissist forum in which to contribute. 

I’ve read enough of this garbage to have earned my say. If more people would stand up, this would evaporate. It exists in real life only where it is tolerated. None of you would walk into a group of healthy men and pop off at the mouth. Some say you would I bet, but I know better. I’ve done it and highly recommend against it. 

And don’t give me the ‘can’t stand the heat’ business. Most all of you can be helpful and respectful if you want. Pearls of wisdom don’t justify disrespect. 

Let’s love each other and enjoy our hobby. Please?

uncledemp

This is nothing.  The moderators have cleaned it up somewhat.  The forum got rid of a bunch of ornery ones. If you have been here a few years ago you know what I  mean.  I have learned a lot here and frequent the site every day.  The site could use some updates.  The people, for the most part,  are much better at behaving than in the past.

This is nothing.  The moderators have cleaned it up somewhat.  The forum got rid of a bunch of ornery ones. If you have been here a few years ago you know what I  mean.  I have learned a lot here and frequent the site every day.  The site could use some updates.  The people, for the most part,  are much better at behaving than in the past.

@uncledemp I find your original post both eloquent and inspiring. Reviewing it, I would characterize it as a plea for civility when posting on the forum, especially in response to other member’s queries or comments. Your key point regarding the incivility you find present on the site was well stated when you wrote, ”It [incivility] exists in real life only where it is tolerated.“ To summarize, you are asking us to be intolerant of intolerance, so-to-speak. Hence the comments about irony and your insensitive comment about beating a wife beater, thus proving your point about continuing to transgress even while attempting perfection.

While I’m fairly new to the forum (2-3 years), I find there is more reason to hope than to condemn. No one ever likes to hear a harsh word, but most of us can stand correction, if it is presented properly.
For instance, one old timer politely corrected my citation of my McIntosh preamp by making a comment something along the lines that I should familiarize myself with McIntosh model names better because the unit I kept citing would have been an integrated amplifier. I took no offense, but I wondered what the heck he was talking about because I “knew” that every piece of McIntosh equipment began with’M’ for McIntosh, which followed by a type identifier to say whether it was an amp, preamp, etc. So my preamp was an ‘MC100’. When I went downstairs to verify this ‘fact’ I found the lettering on the preamp’s black glass proudly spelling out ‘Model C100’. A quick check of internet listings revealed my ignorance. Boy, did I feel like a dummy. The man could have called me an idiot, and I’m sure that those who knew their McIntosh model numbers knew he kinda was, but he didn’t, he was civil, and I learned something I’ll not soon forget. Plus, the man earned my everlasting respect and gratitude. Those who are looking to always cut others down to size should consider how they appear in other’s eyes when they do. [Hint: They they don’t look bigger.]

In like manner, I will never castigate a poster for mis-citing the model number of his (or her) own equipment. One good turn deserves another. Kindness multiplies like yeast in dough.

Your plea reminds me of Jesus’ parable of the servant forgiven a great debt who turns around and grabs a fellow who owes him a small sum and throws him in jail.

@pennfootball71 Thank you for asking the question that has been on my mind since I first started reading this posting.

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