The best anyone can be is a healthy neurotic. To think otherwise is proof positive that they themselves need some type of counseling.
All the best,
Nonoise
All the best,
Nonoise
When are people going to wake up and realize listening is a skill?
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"Some of our participants are more or less confident/arrogant/opinionated than others...that is what you call "personality"" There is also something called "emotional maturity". Ideally, people with very different personalities can manage civil discourse if they have emotional maturity to draw upon, which requires, among other prerequisites, self-awareness. |
"I always thought shrinks were a little "nuts" themselves and perhaps that's what drew them into the field." +1 "Everyone I have known that went into psychology or psychiatry did so in response to their own problems." +2 "Since psychology has been brought into this discussion, I would point out how curious is the extent to which the tenor and style of the comments critical of the OP mirror the very things which they criticize." +3 Projection 101 |
@jetter I can’t believe that after haunting this website with about 10,500 posts all in a couple of years you didn’t think it would be the right thing to do to spend $65 bucks to sell your turntable here to pass on a few bucks to support your forum hosts.Good point. I saw the ad on a different site. Perhaps MC hasn't got around to posting the ad here yet. |
+1 @frogman @ghdprentice I also feel very stable and well adjusted and seem to attract lunacy. Hard to put my finger on but I must be sending out some kinda vibes or inserting myself in situations/venues that are attractive to lunatics. USMC perhaps? BTW awesome system. As far as having listening skills I (of course) think mine are good to very good. I say this because I have sung in acapella choirs for quite a few years. I am particularly sensitive to pace, timing and timbre. That is not to say it transfers to all types of music, but what I am saying is I know what I like and know when it sounds "right". Yes, I hear the difference in signal cables...but not in power cables or fuses. As a last thought, I try very hard to not criticize other posters, I may not have a lot to add to a discussion, but I certainly don't want to detract from it in a personal manner. Life is too short. Regards, barts |
Even Olympic athletes need a coach… btw it’s perfect practice makes perfect, the best athletes can practice in the mind. I have shot many perfect tens in free pistol, solely within my mind but I am humble enough to know I need a coach or Sensei. In the change business the saying is: even the change agent, needs a change agent.The mighty James Taylor has a vocal coach, John Hiatt uses an APP @barts what a wonderful thing you have going with your son :-))) the book Getting Better Sound by Jim Smith is an excellent source of ideas. |
Since psychology has been brought into this discussion, I would point out how curious is the extent to which the tenor and style of the comments critical of the OP mirror the very things which they criticize. Perhaps because a nerve of insecurity has been struck? Since this is an audio forum, re the point of the post: Of course listening is a skill! It is like any other endeavor in that respect. As philbarone points out our listening skills can be trained and fine tuned, and there are tools available to do this. The main problem for some is the unwillingness to accept that this “muscle” is not as strong and flexible naturally as it can be; and needs to be in order to be a good listener. |
@streamerdude-- in my experience (I'm not an MD, let alone a psychiatrist), I always thought shrinks were a little "nuts" themselves and perhaps that's what drew them into the field. Let's talk about "classic Ferraris" through private messaging. I don't want to divert from the thread topic. BTW, welcome to Audiogon. Bill Hart |
@streamerdude I am glad you are a mental health professional. I woke up this morning and did not "realize that listening is a skill." Only because of your oath of confidentiality, I will confess that I have in fact never awakened to realize it. Does that make me a bad person? Does your office have music if I come for a "visit" to dicuss my problem? If so, which speaker cables are you using? |
Short answer to the question posed - never, if you don't realize it's a "problem" in your listening habits, and I would contend that you will never, ever find someone (self proclaimed audiophile or not) who would call themselves "a lousy listener". Now, onward. It's easy to spend money on equipment, get the most exotic cables made from unobtanium, niggle and pick over this spec/that spec and so forth, because it takes little effort and certainly no need for personal improvement. I would, however, advise against trying to turn your listening prowess into some form of competition; if you feel that your hearing (or any other skill) needs improvement and you want to put toward the effort to make that happen, then by all means get after it. Competition needs a standard by which to judge oneself against others, and in the OP's driving tale he shows exactly that with the comparison of speed, but listening has no such standard, and if even if there was, trying to compare your listening acuity to others denies the experience you are looking to achieve for yourself when enjoying music. It is supposed to be an enjoyable hobby after all, and the OP has mentioned here and there about listening for one's own sake and not relying on what others to tell you what you are hearing. I will add my own self-absorbed (but much shorter) similar tale. I was active in mountain biking in my younger years, riding everywhere. My neighbor saw me on my mountain bike and asked "So, you're into mountain biking?" I say "Yes." - made sense. He responded "So do you race?" I said no. He came back with "Well then, what's the point?" which took me aback at the time, because racing was something I was aware of but not something I was interested in, and didn't consider it to be a part of my enjoyment that I was lacking. The neighbor missed the entire point of why I liked to ride, and to be good at racing was never something that I was chasing.
Mountain bike racing "tracks" are semi-groomed and nothing like what you'd encounter on a rough, non-groomed path through the woods or over rocky terrain, and to turn my outings on my bike into training sessions would've sucked all of the enjoyment out of it for me. The OP initially admits that he thought of himself as a pretty good driver and was no doubt pleased at his own perceived skill before the classes, but then when shown that personal improvement could be made (by being shown the advanced prowess of others), there was a dissatisfaction of his own skills. He could've gone three ways with this: to disparage the drivers more skilled than he (and not try for improvement), to recognize that he could indeed improve and pursue that for greater achievement, or to acknowledge that other drivers were more skilled than he but improvement was not something that he wanted to put effort into to be able to be a "better" driver. |
Hey folks, just a reminder that malignant narcissists, such as the OP, believe any attention is good, negative or positive. All of my friends who became psychiatrists admit that the affliction is frankly untreatable. One hundred percent of the conversations they start are self reverential and if you start the conversation they soon turn it into that. In real life they give you the options of fight, flight or submission. Whenever I beat them on the track or out diagnose them in practice they always have an excuse or blame something external. My silent knowing smile enrages them when that happens. I love it. |
@tomic601 No he didn't lap me even though his Lotus is supercharged and has an LSD, upgraded wheels, brakes and tires. I had been to the Ron Fellows Corvette Driving school in Pahrump Nevada for their Advanced level class. Great fun to beat the snot of the school's cars (all sponsored by GM). As with any high performance car its virtually impossible to even come close to its potential on the street as you well know. We were at High Plains Raceway which is east of Denver a bit. Great track, if I lived out there I'd certainly be a member. Anyway they told me that a good time for a decent driver who is a novice to the track is anything below 2:30. My best lap was 2:11, so I was happy with that. I passed everyone except one Porsche, I could hang with him but he would slowly widen the gap. It was a GT3. Not fair LOL! My son did beat me at Hawley Drag Racing School in Gainsville FL. We were driving pro comp dragsters 572 chevys. I went 8.3 @ 161.52 and he went 8.3 @ 161.67 mph. I can't let this stand! Regards, barts |
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Millercarbon, great post, great analogy! Lots of very diverse answers in the thread... To enjoy the music, to gain instant gratification you do not need any special training. That's the same as being the PASSENGER in the car. The driver position in audio is for IMPROVING, steering your system. When you don't know how to listen, what to listen for - then your ride will be quite bumpy and expensive - flatbedding and stuck in the kiddie lane, and you will be making wrong and costly choices that end up in audio burn out. Zero effort gets zero results. You want to step to next level in audio? Take up your audio-helmet and work on your hearing skills. Sure, there are plenty of pretend guys. That's why we call them pretend guys to make the distinction from the REAL ones. If you are fixated on just the pretend guys... it's like seeking out the worst surgeons and then complaining that your surgery went all wrong. You are heading where your compass is set. Choose your setting, and follow your path. If, dear reader, you feel you have the capacity to improve, then you will surely do so and reach your goal!If your comfort zone is in whining and staying negative - no problemo. Buy the cheapest stereo gear, and presto - you have hacked the system! |
barts- Hey MC, Robert Harley uses this same x-ray metaphor in his The Complete Guide to High End Audio. Being an x-ray tech myself it definitely applies. An x-ray is a 2D image of 3D anatomy. At first it is nothing but shades of gray. Then you learn anatomy and physics and the shades take on meaning. Now hardly a day goes by I'm not explaining to some MD how to interpret, which calls for understanding not only the underlying anatomy but the physics of the imaging system including the x-ray beam itself. This experience blows out of the water the claim that all you have to do is listen a lot. It does no good to practice, unless you know what it is you are practicing. It is the very nature of improvement to not know what it is that you need to know! Every single student I ever had not only did not know how to drive, they literally did not know what it was they were doing wrong, or how to do it right, or have even the slightest idea what it is they need to learn. When I say every single one, I mean every single one- including myself! That is why it would be so nice if the haters would drop the act. But wish in one hand hope in the other..... |
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Hey MC, I think the track analogy works rather well inasmuch as its a description of how anyone can get better at a skill. Many years ago JA in Stereophile (I believe it was JA) posted a similar analogy using the learning curve of a radiologist reading x-rays. Starts out as blobs of black and white and as the radiologists skill set increases it eventually turns into a definitive picture. I've always loved Corvettes. A '68 427 vert was my first car, still have it 48 years later. Took my '08 Z06 to a PCA track day along with my son and his Lotus Elise. A Z06 is not a good car to do that with...way to twitchy. Although amazing brakes and fierce power, still the pucker factor is off the charts. Sold the '08 and bought a '16 Z51 coupe. Took that to a PCA track day and had a much better fun time. Was there three days quite a few sessions, got "promoted" to intermediate and said no thanks. Stayed novice because much fewer cars on track and the yahoos(?) who simply wanted to move up were driving like anal brains. Fun stuff. Glad your enjoying your speakers, I enjoy mine and they are old, amps are old, pre is old, cables are old...but none of it is shiitay! Still kicks my butt. To me it is all about the music. Regards, barts |
Einstein, to be honest, I can’t believe that after haunting this website with about 10,500 posts all in a couple of years you didn’t think it would be the right thing to do to spend $65 bucks to sell your turntable here to pass on a few bucks to support your forum hosts. Only because someone hinted at it I looked over at the other free sales website and saw " FOR SALE: Teres Audio Verus Drive "Miller Carbon" Hall of Fame Turntable". I wouldn’t have believed it, not cool. |
In fact if I'd gone and learned special driving skills I'd probably have enjoyed the car less and less.Chris Harris has mad skills. Doesn't seem to have done his driving enjoyment the least bit of harm. https://youtu.be/MGIwvoLPoAU?t=5 |
When I was 30 years old I realised my lifelong dream of owning a 1964 Hillman Minx just like my grandfather had once owned. I loved that car and didn't need special skills to do it. In fact if I'd gone and learned special driving skills I'd probably have enjoyed the car less and less. Insert metaphor to hi-fi here. |
I read the comments. Any specific comments you'd like to point out? |
@wokeuptobose said: "The challenge at my develpomental listening stage is to unpack what I am hearing and what is missing compared to each other, and to a sunjective benchmark in my mind of what that piece of music should sound like." If your experience is anything like mine, comparing equipment, different pressings, or vacuum tubes, unless something is downright awful, the outcome, for me, is often mixed; that is, unit A will have certain strengths and weaknesses, and unit B will have a different set of compromises. The trick in my estimation is to match these strengths and weaknesses in a complementary way. Easier said than done. As for listening skills related to music (as opposed to the failure to comprehend oral discourse), I am of the view that it does not take golden ears. Exposure is the key--- to real instruments, to the various ways they are presented in a recording, and ultimately, to how effectively that recording presents an illusion of real instruments in your room. Granted, every instrument (at least pianos) sound different from each other, but if you know what a concert grand is capable of doing live, you realize how hard it is to replicate the gravitas of the real instrument, and its ambience-- the harmonics and their decay after that initial hammer strike. I listen to a fair amount of hard rock, but rarely use that to assess gear or ancillaries. I do not think you need musical training to hear and appreciate all of this (I have such training, but it bears little relationship to the role of the listener --as opposed to say a recordist or mixer). |
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So what can we test about Millercarbon's hearing to know that he's attained some important level of skill, and what can be done with that skill? The proof is in the pudding. Read the comments. https://systems.audiogon.com/systems/8367 |
I am nice and kind with those who are nice and kind to me. The others should thank their lucky stars, because I am as Jack Reacher would say being gentle. For those who may be interested in learning a little something about driving, I was indeed a PCA Driving Instructor. Also Autocross Instructor, and Driver Skills Instructor. Nowhere in any of that is the word, "racing". It is just a fact, and you could check it out. Driving is as Bob Bondurant concisely stated the art of controlling weight transfer so as to maximize the functions of acceleration, braking, and cornering. Please note: the art of controlling weight transfer. This is a main difference between driving and operating a motor vehicle. The operator of a motor vehicle thinks the car goes where he steers. The driver knows the car responds to the contact patch. Under hard cornering the car can actually be steered by throttle, which is why one of the skills we teach is called throttle steer. Some of this instruction is done on a track. This confuses those easily confused. That is not a dig, just a fact. Those less hateful and genuinely interested in learning never have these misunderstandings. When people say these things, deliberately ignoring essential words like "racing" I often wonder, how dumb do they think people are? But then I realize who they are writing for, and the question answers itself. |
I have two Porsches, one for road and one for the track. I have two classic Ferraris and a few Alfa’s. I have track trained . Thank you Jesus for sparing me of malignant narcissism and an ego that needs a massive shunt of acknowledgment every hour. Oh yeah, I’m a doc and also have a masters degree. However, in this audio- music forum I feel NO need to tie that other crap in. |
@feldmen4 In the OP’s original post, Stop trying to threaten MC’s credibility with facts by quoting exactly what he said! Yes he wrote this but your reading comprehension is "dismal". Stating that you were a driving instructor doesn’t mean you were ever actually a driving instructor....got it? Perhaps english isn’t your first language? ;-) |
I've got no problem with Millercarbon opining about what interests him. I just wish he would be as nice and kind while doing so as he is likely in real life. I've enjoyed immensely the Porsches I've owned over the years. In visiting with a dear friend who owns a successful Porsche racing team, we chuckle at the eternal question: how many Porsche drivers today could avoid backing their 911's off the road without all the driving nannies. Not many. You haven't lived until you've swapped ends....a little snap back oversteer also can be humbling. |
Driving skills are easily assessed with measurable tests. Listening skills can also be tested. If someone claims to have perfect pitch, we can test that. If they claim they can identify extremely low levels of distortion, we can test that. If they can tell one violin manufacturer from another just by listening, we can test that. So what can we test about Millercarbon's hearing to know that he's attained some important level of skill, and what can be done with that skill? Is it just for the pleasure of the owner of that skill? I enjoy reproduced music, and I'd say the most useful skill I have is my ability to ignore issues with playback systems and hear the musical intent coming through. My lack of that skill is what has led me into somewhat expensive and complicated playback gear. |
This will be news to precisely no one, but the level of reading comprehension here is dismal. Nowhere in anything I wrote was anything about me giving racing car driving lessons. That was entirely made up by someone with a lot more imagination and desire to push a personal narrative than anything. A sad, spiteful, green with jealousy narrative at that. |