Most people don't fully understand to actually listen requires one to get quiet, then get still and then further more focus
What tends to happen for me in many cases, particular if alcohol is involved, newbies are enjoying some of their favorite material and cannot resist the urge to respond or worse begin to sing, whereby reducing my pride and joy to a glorified karaoke machine
I make the best of it nonetheless but left with the sense they've missed the finer or best parts of the experience