How to explain our obsessions to the uninitiated?


My father in-law asked me last night at dinner, just what makes one box more special than the other (referring to the components within a system) so much so that one can command a higher price and succeed in a competitive marketplace? I tried explaining as best I could and don't know if I did a very effective job at it. I was wondering if anyone has come across an online resource, or even a thread here that may do a good job at putting into words that someone who knows nothing about this hobby can relate with, exactly what it is that makes one component better than another and worth the price of admission? Since he expressed some interest I was thinking of pointing my father in-law to something like that if it exists. I will also take the time to try to sit him down and listen, of course, but I'd also like to find a well-articulated (hopefully brief and to the point) description of the carrot on the stick. Perhaps I'll just compose something myself. It is not the first time someone has asked me. There's always the response; "...if you have to ask, you probably won't get it anyway." I'd rather be more positive and try, at least, to share my enthusiasm, even if the likelihood may be towards the inference of that more rude response. What have your experiences been in sharing your hobby with those who otherwise wouldn't care about such things?
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An additional thought: Music I love can be enjoyed on a POS (ie: crappy car radio) but the enjoyment increases exponentially as the system gets better. Better "boxes" as well as attention to EVERYTHING else just makes it all the more so, and when it is REALLY good, it approaches great sex!
I was thinking of this post yesterday, and I don't think it goes for just our hobby.

Case in point, I am an avid cyclist, and my bike cost over $5K. One of my friends who is big golfer found this fact out and was floored. He couldn't believe I would spend so much on a bicycle.

When I asked him how much his golf clubs cost he immediately replied $4,500. I then reminded him I didn't have to pay greens fees to ride, nor take trips to golf courses for my hobby and he saw the point.

What I am saying is I don't think you ever truly can explain you passion for any hobby to those with dissimilar interests, though pointing out Joe's golf expenses did stop him from picking on my bikes!!!
As has been stated earlier, this applies to anything that one can term an "obsession". If you don't have such obsession it's going to be very difficult, if not impossible, to have it explained to you such that you "understand". In any case, even if it were possible to make other understand an obsession, anytime someone is not coming into a conversation with an open mind then you can just stop wasting your time.
I can so identify with Donaudio.

Before I understood what I was doing, I too suffered the 90 second, "umm, okay...so how about those Red Sox..." several times.

This may drift a tiny bit from the original issue, but I feel people need to be questioned a tad about their relationship with music. If you find out the person owns no music at all and listens only to FM radio in the car for lack of any other activity available to them, do not waste your time.
The audience MUST have a passion for music in the first place, or it is useless.

There is also a big difference between a music lover and an audiophile.

A music lover hears a flaw in the reproduction of a piece music. They make a mental note to try to overcome it...then continue to enjoy the rest of the piece...and the rest of the nights listening.

An audiophile hears that same flaw in the reproduction of a piece of music. They get up and pull the stylus out of the groove right in the middle of the performance. Then they skip around from record to record, trying to find where it is most and least pronounced. They spend hours listening to the gear, not the music.

PS, in a real environment, you can hear the lady in the second row of violins scream because of the mouse...but not the mouse.

Be Well!
G