I feel sincere gratitude to all responding to OP and to OP for his post. Many of us had/have some similar experiences,. Responding to such kind of question could be more valuable than a technical advise regarding a particular gear. Compassion that you express is important and can well be encouraging and helpful for OP.
I found it particularly useful to create some kind of intimate (positive) feeling and relation with my audio system. Enjoy both, the SQ and the music. Depending on your mood, try to decide which kind of music may please you. Sometimes I find it calming to listen to silence.
I have a very specific attitude and relation with each of my (three) audio systems. Independently of the cost of each of them, i enjoy all of them in different ways. Try to create an intimate relation with your system as if it were a member of your family. Despite your personal problems, do you still communicate with the members of your family/friends? So do the same with your system.
Dependencies are no good, but here in this world we always depend on many things (as an extreme example, we even cannot exist without an air - our existence is subject to the environment and one small component of this environment is our audio system).