I deliberately search out for music that sounds beautiful, as opposed to angry
Me too, Rich. Well said. And of course, less blasting with Metallica means less ear damage.
( I still like Dylan but he wrote a lot of angry songs, and if they don't also have a sense of humour I can't listen to them. The good ones sound better on vinyl, the mad ones are easier to skip on CD. Can't have it both ways, nuts. )
To really do your ears in takes levels at which the gear may well be distorting. Audiophiles don't like that much, I've noticed.