It can be seductive to go for components like Benchmark that are very detailed, but can rob you of the emotional connection.I am not so sure the super silent Benchmark robs you of emotional connection. I my view it allows the other components, source and amp, to dictate the sound.
I was just listening to Pearl Jam 'Black' on the Topping pre90 (just like the Benchmark preamps) and the Parasound A21+ and I was moved by the music.
I have 3 peamps that I have mixed and matched and they are all good with the right pairing.
CODA 07x, Topping pre90, Benchmark LA4