Some in the hobby I perceive are professionals and work in offices/vocations where they are not exposed to working men. It makes a big difference, in my opinion.
If someone is used to environments where they can say anything they want and pitch fits like children without getting slapped or beaten, it can give you a false sense of safety/security. I’ve always worked in the construction trades and have a firm grasp on my mouth. Being in the military and playing sports helped too.
Ironically, most tough talk is a cheap substitute for masculinity, as I’ve never feared being talked to death… but have tried to avoid as many beatings as possible. A beating hurts and is embarrassing, doesn’t take many!