tech-talk,
Have you considered that by posting as you have here in the forum, you are literally looking for a needle in a haystack?
Your post is asking why some companies don't offer XLR on their high end products. You ask that no one speculate. Twice.
So, really the only person or people you are asking to respond would be THE person or team member responsible for overall product development at an audio company that doesn't offer XLR who actually knows the reason they chose not to.
And you think that person or people are reading this message of yours in the forum and willing to share their decision matrix? I don't think so.
I suggest you'd be far better off posting in a companies forum if they had one, or getting direct communication from the company you wish had those options.
For example... if you had a question for Bryston, in the AudioCircle forum, there is a Bryston sub-group, and the key players in Bryston do participate in discussions. That sort of format is likely to yield answers that are not speculation, not a public forum like this. Just my 02.