@auroravengeance I actually love how these bookshelves imaged today, but I think I would miss that sense of scale that I seem to hear with the floor standers ive heard so im pretty sold on a floor stander or at least a big bookshelf type.
@knighttodd thank you for pointing me to this company, I have never hear of them before and im considering the halo 1 as that may be more practical for me.
I also found this diy kit that I feel might fit the bill, https://www.troelsgravesen.dk/SBAcoustics-10.htm
he describes the sound as "Bass is deep, potent and dynamic. Need I say more? I won't. Middriver and tweeter deliver an astonishing level of transparency…Transient response is phenomenal!" but I cant find much information on them online from people who built them.
As for everyone's suggestions, I will be visiting a few dealers that carry a lot of your suggestions, offerings from JBL, B&W, Dynaudio, wharfedale, monitor audio, have peaked my interest
thanks again for taking the time to help me out