Well in some 45 years plus experimenting with turntables, tonearms, mats, drives, isolation racks, cartridges, phono cables, power cords, clamps, etc., I have had the many experiences above. At one extreme, I had a Final Audio turntable. It was all pure copper and the platter weighed 150 pounds, had no mat that was about six inches thick, There was a column of bronze with a cap that you could have drilled for your tone arm, and a bearing that weighed about 70 pounds of solid copper also. I don't remember was the bearing surface was. None of this was bolted to a base, you just plunked it down and got your adjustments by gently moving the tonearm column and the motor to get enough tension. You had to start it by using you finger to spin it. It was a string drive.
In short it was extreme, but it only sounded great sitting on our foundation floor and we had a three year old son!
Today, I have a Jean Nantais/Lenco idler wheel drive with an Ikeda 407 Long tonearm and their 9TT cartridge. This all weighs over 100 pounds and sits on a Stillpoint ESS rack with Grids and Ultra Five isolators. I have two record clamps-one the Star Sound Tech Platter Ground and the other the Dalby Record Stabilizer. Finally I use the High Fidelity Din to RCA tone arm cables into the BMC MCCI phono stage with special RCA to XLR adapters into the MCCI.
Frankly, I have never had anything close to this vinyl reproduction. I think it is largely immune to stylus vibration, music vibration, etc. and provides a very rich sound stage and real instrument fidelity and location. I am happy!