I'm sorry, to be so basic about this, but Have you moved the speakers about the room and sat down to listen? You can go to all the websites you want, ask me and everyone else in the world, but the best thing you can do at the moment is your basic 1/3rd 2/3rds setup, put on what you know to be some well recorded material, a piece you know well that on some system some where you have heard all the qualities that you are searching for and then start moving things around little by little till its right, and right not buy the books or the websites or by some others but by your own ears. Keep this up and we will have another audio fool out here selling us his room setup cd package and I gaurantee there be people jump on that bandwagon and trading insults and writing papers and will be buying and selling it used on the websites argueing which version is best.
And please, part of this is tongue in cheek, but really, I was just aghast that no one has told you to listen. You can write, so you must have some intelligence, you can hear I assume, so combine the two and I genuinely think you can be wonderfully surprised at the results. If nothing else, depending on where you live, I bet you can get three or four people that read this site to come over and help you with this.