Regarding the first point, I can't play, for example track 9 by pressing 9 on the remote (projector screen turned off). I have to press the chapter forward button nine times to get there, very irritating.
That's unusual. The only thing I can think of is that your multi-function remote control may disable the keypad function if you select "TV" accidentally. I've seen that happen on some DVD player remotes I've had before. I guess the thinking is that when the remote is being used for TV you'll be likely to use the keypad for channel input, not track input.