RE: the question: ":Why do forum interactions become contentious". . .

Somebody mentioned “anger management.”
What is that?
In my 30+ years practicing psychiatry, I never could identify that technique and I never encountered any truly competent clinicians claiming to practice “anger management.” I found that the term was very popular with judges and others in the legal profession, who made referrals for “anger management,” but the results of such activities seemed to yield little more that court sanctioned income for the therapists. Anger is either normal, depending on circumstances and history, or a symptom of something. It is not a disease or defect to be eradicated or “managed.”

Somebody mentioned “anger management.”
What is that?

There a many circonstances in life, most of them, when we must control anger...( i dont spoke here about the sudden anger of a father defending his daughter for example nor of a person angered by everything there is)

We cannot suppress anger but we can enlightened the source of our anger and orientate our anger in a creative way instead of a desctructive way...I will call it "anger creative reorientation"...

We forget the object of our anger for a moment to focus in ourself and on the way we will manage the enormous energy surge at our disposition to create something meaningful from what is meaningless and has angered ourself to begin with......It is this or autodesctruction most of the times... ( anger said the mother of my mother damage the liver) 😁😊

Only my opinion but i am not a psychologist....


But sometimes in life we are vulnerable, not already in great shape, and when  some idiot create without reason an attack on us, we are not ALWAYS able to transform our justified anger in a creative way other than retreating in our own home.....It is the reason why i understand perfectly the feeling of the OP and his reaction...I offer my prayer for his health....

Personally, I believe that the moderators and sponsors of this site intentionally, if passively, promote no-holds-barred discussion to differentiate this forum from others.

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Yup!! and it works for the most part..

Regards

I think my mecanician friend is right....

My deepest respect...

“if you want to make GOD laugh tell him your plans.”

I believe the original term is; "Men plan, God laughs."
It is paraphrasing from a Bible passage.

The Lord laughs at him, For he sees his day is coming. -       Psalm 37:13

The best laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men
          Gang aft agley,
An’ lea’e us nought but grief an’ pain,
          For promis’d joy!

Robert Burns, "To a Mouse"