Hi Bournnw,
Sounds like you answered your own question for the most part. To decode multi-channel digital information you'll have to use the DACs in your receiver (i.e. bypass the Theta entirely, since that's only for stereo digital sources), so I see no reason why you'd want to send that signal through the Theta DAC since it's not doing the processing. However, if you want to use your DVD player to play stereo sources (i.e. CDs) you can certainly use the digital out into the Theta DAC for that, but I don't know why you'd want to do that since you have a superior Theta transport available for that already.
So basically, your multi-channel digital sources should go directly to the digital inputs of your receiver, and your stereo digital sources should go into the Theta DAC and its analog outs to the receiver. Hope this helped.
Tim