I don't necessarily share all of Chakster's adoration of all vintage cartridges over all modern, expensive MCs. I judge them all separately, and I do find that the old MM and MI types give more bang for the buck as well as more absolute bang, most of the time. Nor do I or Chakster claim that they last "forever". The point is that a "good" one has no more of a wearing effect on an LP than does a modern, brand new sample, assuming both are properly set up. (If you disagree, please divulge the scientific basis for your claim.) Do you want to get into a debate over who loves his LPs more, Chakster, Halcro, and I vs you and your friend with the Lyra Atlas? That strikes me as nonproductive. The fact is your conclusion based on your friend's experience is in error. But the debate about vintage vs new production is really separate from the main subject of your post.
The fact is, as has been written here before by me and many, many others, the current method of marketing "expensive" cartridges has evolved over 40-50 years due to the nature of the marketplace and the economies associated with running an audio business, either a bricks and mortar type or a mail order type. And in fact, if you care to look, there are several businesses that WILL allow you to return a cartridge if unharmed and within a specific time window after purchase. Often, to be accorded such a privilege, you have to be a trusted customer with a good track record. Robin Wyatt is one who has been mentioned. I am pretty sure that Mehran, who sells ZYX will do that for folks he knows. Others have mentioned other companies. So, let's move on.
The fact is, as has been written here before by me and many, many others, the current method of marketing "expensive" cartridges has evolved over 40-50 years due to the nature of the marketplace and the economies associated with running an audio business, either a bricks and mortar type or a mail order type. And in fact, if you care to look, there are several businesses that WILL allow you to return a cartridge if unharmed and within a specific time window after purchase. Often, to be accorded such a privilege, you have to be a trusted customer with a good track record. Robin Wyatt is one who has been mentioned. I am pretty sure that Mehran, who sells ZYX will do that for folks he knows. Others have mentioned other companies. So, let's move on.