I use an appropriately sized socket (without the wrench) to hand tighten.
In addition, where the speaker cables exit the spade, I will point the cables at about the 4 o'clock position (instead of straight down at the 6 o'clock position). As I hand tighten using the socket, I'll using the other hand to turn the spades/cables toward the 6 o'clock position simultaneously.
This method seems to work quite well at providing a very snug connection between spade and binding post.
-IMO