I'm not sure I can answer all your questions, but I'll cover some of them. You can use one pre amp with two amplifiers, but you have to have the right pre amp. It must have two sets of pre outputs. One for each amplifier. Then, if you want to control each amplifier separately, you'll have to find amplifiers with built in gain controls. This will offer a volume change at two places. One at the pre amp, and one more at the amplifier. A good example of amplifiers that can do this is the older parasound line. Every one of their amplifiers from a couple years a go has one gain per channel. (Usually 2 per amplifier). That would be the complicated way to go.
Any easier way to go might be to find an integrated with a set of pre out puts. And run the amplifier off the pre amp. You'll want to make sure the power of each amplifier is somewhat similar, otherwise you could have very different volume levels from each set of speakers.
Any easier way to go might be to find an integrated with a set of pre out puts. And run the amplifier off the pre amp. You'll want to make sure the power of each amplifier is somewhat similar, otherwise you could have very different volume levels from each set of speakers.