"So, if I listen to my stereo at a volume of say, 70 dB, what is the difference in a 100W amp vs. 250 W amp? If I listen at 70 dB, is more power delivered to the speakers with a 250W amp vs. 100W amp (resulting in better driver control)?"
No. A speaker needs a certain amount of power to play a particular note or tone at 70 dB (in your room, at your listening location). That's exactly what the amp is delivering at that moment, whether it's a 100w or a 250w amp.
The advantage of a 250w amp is that music, unlike a test tone, isn't at constant loudness. Occasional peaks can really drive up a speaker's need for power. With a more powerful amp, you're less likely to hit its limits or start to hear noticeable levels of distortion when the cannon goes off in the 1812 Overture, say.
"Is it that a higher powered amp delivers a given amount of power more cleanly?"
If you're talking about a large amount of power, that may be the case. Most of the time, however, your speakers aren't demanding very much of your amplifier, and even a small amp will be able to deliver a clean signal.
Keep in mind that an amp's power rating is only a very crude measure of how powerful it is under the range of conditions it would face in a typical music system. Someone who knows what they're doing can do much more meaningful measurements, but the measurements you see on the typical spec sheet aren't particularly meaningful. The best way to tell whether an amp is powerful enough is to bring it home and try it out in your system.