I would concentrate on getting speakers that accurately portray the 80-20k freq. range and then match up a small sub to fill-in the lower octaves. The Rogers LS 3/5s come to mind. As for subs, look for something with a 10-12" driver and room EQ capabilities, perhaps a Velodyne DD-10 or DD-12.
You will NOT be able to reproduce the entire 20-20k in the room described, but a system such as this should do VERY well from 35-20k in that room. And, once a larger room is available, run a re-eq and wtach that bottom end open up.
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