Is this the one that I should get?Yes, or bigger relays but not smaller
And this light bulb tester will work to charge the capacitors, so I should not need to buy a Variac for this one time use?Yes, you can start with a 15w incandescent light bulb for about 12-24 hrs, then use a 40w bulb for another 12-24 hrs to reform the capacitors, then follow by a 100w bulb for an hour to make sure the amplifier still working fine.