@lowrider57 I was remiss in not mentioning fingers, but a beginner has to strengthen those wrists practicing rudiments first. You are totally correct that developed drummers require finger dexterity as well, but that seems WAY beyond a beginner's horizon. Mastering the simple rudiments will strengthen the wrists and then give the musician the opportunity to develop the fingers as they master the finer points you list.
Learning to read drum charts will also help, but practicing rudiments from sheet music will clearly help with that part as well. I also agree that electronic drums are fine, but along with others, I suggest getting a regular kit--you can start with a practice pad and pair of 5A's. FYI, my brother and all learners back then used HUGE sticks...I doubt they make them anymore. (They were painful, as well, when he smacked his little brother, as siblings sometimes do.) I just remember the tips were huge and the shafts were almost twice as big as 5's are. Fun times! By the way, he drove the entire family nuts as he NEVER STOPPED banging on stuff. Probably why he was good at it as we have no natural musical talent in our family as far as I can tell, even though I play "at" several instruments, but only by myself as to spare others the mess.
Cheers!