Is my room too small

No - My room is 10' 4" x 16' and well treated, I have speakers out 58" from front wall and sit 9' away.

I had the VR4 Jrs and coudlnt stand them, sold them in 2 weeks. I used a Pass X250 amp and VPI Super scout master as my equipment. They just never sounded right ( I spent 2 weeks moving them around to no avail)

In my room I owned and liked
Spendor SP1/2e
B&W 801 Matrix III
Currently have Revel F52 - blows them all away

FWIW, my room is 11*15, speakers along long wall, my seat < 1' from rear wall, which is treated w/ 4" thick bass panels behind my head, reflective side out; the ear ignores reflections < 10ms which a panel close to the head provides in mid-upper freq's while absorbing bass freq's which take longer to reflect and thus cause smearing, as Daverz mentioned.

i'm +/- 5db to 40hz or so IIRC. without room treatments, expect to be +/- 20db. seriously

Thanks to all of you, so bottom line here is treat the room and use whatever speakers I want? I see so many room set ups, even small rooms with Van Schweikerts VR4 jr mk 2 I figure these have to be good. So thats my choice.

You still need to choose speakers carefully so that they don't overload the room with bass. You can only do so much with bass traps.

I have a dedicated room that is 10x11. In a room this size, I think you are forced to use a speaker that is small(ish) and that does not reproduce much bass below about 50hz. Trying to shoehorn a speaker that is too large for your room is probably a recipe for failure IMHO.