integrating a highend tube preamp into ht is a nightmare!
That depends on the preamp. You have to understand that the preamp is not designed to be part of the signal path.
Either the preamp has a HT feature, or it doesn't. If it doesn't, than your
HT signal is just another input. Your only option is, when you choose that input and assuming your preamp has 0 amplification, to turn the preamp all the way up and forget about it. All control is done from your HT device.