I have to say that my wife turned out to not be the typical woman. I don't mean the term "typical woman" in any derogatory way.
She knows how to drive a tractor, use a chainsaw (which scares the crap out of me quite honestly), is a writer, and a lover of music. Just about every night we sit together in our listening room and listen to vinyl together. She appreciates the improvements that I make to our system and gives me very honest and specific critiques.
I do save money to spend on our system. I have an allowance. I ordered a Technics 1200g a couple of months back and after explaining why I picked that specific table, she was cool with it. She understands my reasoning (or at least nods her head.... I think of her chainsaw abilities at times) and realizes that I am trying to build my retirement system. She gets that. She also enjoys the end result. I don't expect her to know brand details and spec sheets. That is my thing. Hers is the enjoyment of the end product. I would say that at this point, she is as close to being an audiophile as I could hope for.
At events that I like to go to (hamfest events) she is right there beside me digging through boxes looking for oil filled capacitors and the like. I go to her events as well (outlander) so that I can support her in what she likes.
I would say that I lucked out with whom I married. We both value the interests of each other and respect each others views. We share many of the same interests and value what is important to one another.
As a side note, I would love to hear more from the female audiophile side of the room, not just the jaded old farts that we have running around here (yeah, I can be one myself at times). Your opinions are very welcome.