why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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While this posts focuses on the negative aspects of this forum which I admit are many, the overall benefits it can provide greatly outweigh all the weird, random vile stuff inserted.

Here is my example @jjss49 system photo shows a DAC I'm really interested in.  His response was to check his posts when I asked him about it.  Checking his posts he actually talks about my current DAC.  @jss49 is a goldmine and all I have to do is click his name and read his posts.

Here is a person who understands the hobby and has direct knowledge about the questions that I'm interested in.  Where else can someone get that hands on experience regarding HIFI regarding my specific questions and maybe if I haven't alienated him be able to  provide even more detail upon request.

So if for no other reason than your own benefit turn down the rancor as the person you just flamed may be the person that could actually help you the most.
@mozartfan talks a good game on objective measures. Please provide 4 for your “ reference “ wideband system; On axis frequency response, Impulse response, waterfall plot, and the laser scan of the driver showing breakup modes. A mere $500 for the latter in Germany. Giving you a pass on phase angle and impedance vs. frequency.
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I like how this post is about admonishing contentious behavior and a few people already have fallen in to it. Outstanding.