If I have a 80 watt stereo amp and I normally listen at quarter volume and never play at levels higher than this. Do I really need 80 watts could I use a 15 watt amp at half volume?
No, it depends on the input levels and your amp's gain. If your input level is very high, you could exceed your amplifiers output even when your volume knob is lower than half volume. It the input is very low, you could possibly not even come near your amplier's total output even with the volume turned all the way up.
There is no "golden ratio" between amps.
... if I have speakers that my mfg states needs min 50 watts to really make them sound good with my current amp rated at 80 watts but played at qtr volume does that mean I am not really getting the best from these speakers.
No, the manufacturers are engaging in a CYA exercise. The "best from your speakers" is what sounds the best to you. Don't sweat it, sit back and enjoy your sound. You are over thinking things.