FWIW front row center at an orchestral concert can easily be over 100dB on peaks.
There are a lot of things that can cause harshness in a system when you try to run the volume at realistic levels.
Early side wall reflections are interpreted by the ear as harshness.
Higher ordered harmonics are interpreted as harshness.
Resonances excited by vibration in a turntable or vacuum tubes (microphonics) are interpreted by harshness.
Slap echoes in the room are interpreted as harshness.
Even if you don't play at +100dB levels, getting a handle on these things will result in a more musical relaxed presentation in the room even if 85dB is your maximum volume.
Of course you want your amp to have a good first watt!