Aquablu8,
I thought I put this in a thread yesterday, but I don't see it.
"What online dealers do home trials? Thx."
The best dealer that I have come across that does in home lending is The Cable Company/Ultra Systems. They specialize in lending out all types of audio gear for you to try in your home. I have been using them myself for many years and find them to be very honest and reputable. I would give them a call and see what they have to say. Their website is fatwyre.com. Over the years, they saved me from making many mistakes.
Also, I understand you can't always go out and listen to anything you like. It's very difficult. What you can do is listen to some stuff, even if you don't see yourself buying it. The reason for this is that you have a much better chance of using onto a website like this and getting and better results. For example, if you are interested in Speaker A but have not heard it, you can start a thread hear and list some of the speakers that you have heard, and weather you like them or not. That can help a lot in that it will give the people responding to your post a much better picture of what you like from a sonic standpoint. I hope this helps. I'm late and typing really fast so please excuse any errors and if I missed anything, let me know.