I've never thought more or less about other audiophiles based on the cost of their systems. One thing that is unique to audiophiles and their equipment is that I'd bet the majority of audiophile systems are bought and paid for and do not represent debt.
Why is it that people think that it's cool for someone to own an expensive boat, but take issue with someone spending an equal sum of money on an audio system? I'd bet far more boat owners have loans on their boats that are stretching them financially than there are audiophiles that have loans on their audio systems. Maybe I'm wrong and more audiophiles are in debt with their systems that I am thinking, but it seems to be that most audiophiles built their systems over many years.