You are not the only one who reports the result that changing the load resistance by 20,30, 40 ohms in the already low resistance region (say, below 1000 ohms) makes a critical difference, with a LOMC cartridge. All I can say is, I never have understood such reports. It runs completely contrary to my experience. in my experience, yes, there is a very slight difference between very low load resistances and 47K ohms. However, the differences are mostly that the highest resistance sounds a little more lively to me. I certainly have never heard a difference between say 200 ohms and 250 ohms With any low output moving coil that I have ever owned. This is certainly not to say that you are wrong or misguided. It probably has something to do with the design of the phono stage, although I confess my experiences are the same with any of three or four phono stages that I own, some of which are solid state and some of which are tube Types.
There is one exception: As you may know, it is optimal for the ratio between the internal resistance of the cartridge and the input impedance of the phono stage (which is largely determined by the phono load resistor) to be related by a factor of 1:10 or better. For example, for an LOMC with an internal R of 10 ohms, you want to load it with at least 100 ohms or higher resistance (which is why even 47K ohms is fine). The reason is as that ratio gets lower than 1:10, you begin losing more and more of the cartridge output (signal voltage) to ground. So the coupling becomes less and less efficient. But if your phono stage has an excess of gain, that wouldn't matter so much. What also happens however is that as the ratio gets lower, you begin to preferentially lose treble, because of any capacitance at the phono input stage. (All gain stages, both tube and solid state, present a tiny capacitance at their inputs, unless the input is a cascode. There is also cable capacitance.) And the sound gets dull. (Which is why I was so surprised that you say you lose treble when R goes to 47K ohms. Should be the other way around.)