If you’re looking at the large round nut with flattened parallel facets, as shown in Elliot’s photo, I’d first try to turn it counterclockwise by hand, grabbing those facets. If that doesn’t work, then I’d use an adjustable wrench as I described above. Adjust it so it is in contact with those facets, hold it close to the head so you’re not exerting max leverage, and gently turn counterclockwise.