Just curious, what speakers are you pairing them with, how big is the room, what gear are you using and are you high pass filtering your mains? Some other info there could help to dial in your setup.
@paradisecom is right in that a xo point @60hz doesn't stop your sub from playing and adding @240hz. Albeit probably 20db down or so, it will still add to what the mains are doing. Combinebthat with the likelihood of a 200hz room mode and you have some extra weight in that region for sure. I'd be willing to bet if you measured on REW a L with sub vs R with sub, the side where the sub is placed will be 1-2db higher under 500hz. Try centering your sub between mains, and perhaps lower your xo point. Other option would be using dsp to hard 4th (or higher) order filter to build that xo point to be a cliff where Gandalf shouts "You Shall Not Pass". After you try that for a weekend, just buy a second sub. I upgraded my single Rythmik 12" sub to a pair of Rythmik F8, and I now have perfect stereo imaging with very good separation with high pass filter around 150hz and raising spl measured down to 9hz in my small room. With bass notes, it's a strength in numbers thing. 
-Lloyd