What phono preamps are balanced

The VTL TP-6.5 has single ended inputs and balanced outputs.

Pedrillo, Most likely the 5th lead from the Graham 2.2 is just to ground the tonearm body to the preamp chassis. It's a toss-up whether you would even need to connect it. With my RS-A1 tonearm, I had hum until I ran a ground wire from the body to a screw on the chassis of my preamp. With the Triplanar, the accessory ground wire just waves in the breeze, and I have no hum. So, if you have hum, find a way to attach that wire to your phono stage chassis. I now re-read your post and see that you are using the word "pin". Sorry, but it's the same deal. I guess you are looking at the 5th pin on the DIN plug. This is the pin that is sort of at the apex of the formation of 5 pins. That too, is for grouding the tonearm body via the connecting cable. The connecting cable may or may not have a free wire that is not within the shield or terminated with a connector. That's your ground wire. Alternatively the 5th pin may be connecting internally to the shield of your balanced cable connection. The shield will convey the tonearm ground to your phono stage.

Pedrillo, I ran my Graham in balanced mode. Pin 3 of the tone arm connector is ground. I was able to use the same cable that I did for my SME V.

Hagerman Trumpet too is balanced.

Here is a list of all the balanced phono stages which have balanced circuitry not just the xlr connectors and/or transformer coupling that I have found, please feel free to add others or make corrections:
Aesthetix io (tube)
Aesthetix Rhea (tube)
Aqvox 2ci (ss)
Arc ph2 (ss)
Arc ref2 (tube)
Asr Basis exclusive (ss)
Atma-sphere mp1 (tube)
Atma-sphere mp3 (tube)
Ayre p-5x (ss)
Bat VK-P10 (tube)
Clearaudio Balanced Reference (?)
Ear 324 (ss)
Einstein tt choice (ss)
Essential 3150\
hagerman trumpet(tube)
Jeff Rowland Cadence (ss)
Pass Xono (ss)
PS Audio gcph (ss)
Simaudio lp5.3 (ss)
Whest ps.30r(ss)