How can anyone afford this ?


I consider myself a dedicated audiophile. I am 36(which I am guessing is a little younger than the average here) and single. I have been interested in high-end audio since I saw my uncle's Mcintosh and Threshold equipment for the first time when I was 5.
Since joining the workforce and saving a little I have always been trying to put together a nice system on a budget. I do OK financially(I am a systems engineer) but I do live in NYC which may put some of this into perspective.
Over the last 6 months I have struggled to buy(all used on Agon) a pair of Dynaudio Audience 42s and a Threshold CAS2 amp, Chang CLS3200, and cables(I haven't gone out[I don't have a girfriend], purchased anything else and really haven't eaten too much to be able to afford these and it is still a real stretch). I am using the amp with a direct connection from my CD/DVD player(Cambridge Audo Azur 540D...slightly modified[op amps, PS caps, bypass caps] that I have had for almost 10 years). A fellow has a Threshold FET2 series II(to match with the CAS2) he is holding for me but that seems like a pipe dream at this point along with a turntable.
A few years ago the analogue bug hit me.
I had a setup consisting of an Audio Analogue Settanta integrated and a Nottingham Horizon SE turntable with a Rega RB300 tonearm with the Incognto rewire and structural mod. This was not an expensive kit by any stretch but for me it almost put me in the poor house. I had to sell the entire rig to pay my bills and it hurt.
It seems over the last 10 years or so I have not been able to keep a kit for more than 6 months before I had to sell it. Whenever I don't have a rig I am constantly scanning the online Ads lusting for the next bargain to set up a system and cannot even listen to music on a mass market rig(I have been spoiled).
Anyway, I guess my question is how can anyone normal afford this hobby? What type of money do you have to be making to be able to enjoy this hobby.....$100,000/year? $500,000/year? Do you need to be worth millions? $5,000 barely gets you in the door(some interconnects cost more) and you could possibly spend millions. I am not looking to put together a $10,000 system(not even close...and that is modest in this hobby) but if I wanted to I don't see it ever being financially possible. If I had a girlfriend or a family(hopefully someday) I would not event be able to think about this hobby with a good conscience. I guess I am wondering if all these people in this hobby are millionaires? I am close to selling my rig again to pay the bills(the amp needed repair/recap and that was $450). Any advice for an audiophile who lusts to put together a nice rig but can't afford it? Should I get out and save for 5 or 10 years and then try again? Maybe I am in the wrong hobby but it is more addicting that crack to me(and more expensive). Maybe I should be a crackhead instead...that might be the only thing to make me forget about it. Thoughts?
adamd1205
First, you live in NYC which means that every night there's high quality live music available for you to hear. Take advantage of that situation.

Second, the equipment can get costly, but the real expense are space and time. Having a living space where you can properly set up and listen to your system and then having the time to actually do it.

Finally, it's been my experience that the least well spent money involved upgrading from OK sounding equipment to slightly better than OK sounding equipment. Don't change equipment unless it's a really significant upgrade.
The amount of money spent has absolutely nothing to do with great recorded play back.
I was 31 when I first entered this 'madhouse' and that was 32 years ago. I was lucky to find the most amazing speakers which were custom-made and which I still have to this day.
The rest of my system was modest but satisfying (Rega Planar 3, Hadcock GH228 arm, Electrocompaniet Preamp and Perraux amp.
Apart from buying a Kebschull valve preamp 5 years in, this system kept me happy (and competed successfully with the high-end competitors) for 30 years during which time I brought up and educated 2 kids, bought a house or two and struggled through life.
When the kids leave home and the mortgages are paid and you're earning more without the money going out, you suddenly look at retirement with a positive cash-flow.
It's then that one can afford to pay the prices for exotic high-end if one wishes to?
Your mistake I believe is in the buying and selling and not settling on 'great' sound for your budget and sitting still.
It is possible.
I lived on the Upper East Side for fourteen years and commuted in for most of three more. The majority of people who live in the city would likely say that by the time they get home from work (assuming they in fact get home), they're so fried that the thought of going out after work for live music is like going out after work to climb Mt. Everest. I got so annoyed at spending $70 to sit in Avery Fisher Hall and then having to constantly look at my Blackberry or force myself to listen to the performers instead of drifting back into some deal point we were obsessing about that I pretty much stopped going. NYC is nothing like the glamorous life portrayed on TV shows - it's bare knuckles survival for most of us, and in this regard, people seek refuge in things like high-end stereos. People work hard everywhere, of course, which is why taking in music on one's own time, with a great stereo, appeals to a lot of people. As for the prices of some of the gear, yes, it's lamentable, but the hobby is dying, and with it, anything approaching the economies of scale that would make gear more affordable.