Kurt is correct . . . except for some very rare instances, a phono cartridge is always wired as a balanced connection - it can be thought of as a transformer with a mechanical (rather than electrical) primary. And given the ratio of a cartridge's common-mode versus differential-mode source impedance, the interconnection to the preamp can retain most of the noise-rejection performance of a balanced line even if it's terminated to an unbalanced input.
There's very little performance difference that's associated with the XLR-vs.-RCA connectors themselves as they're the same connections . . . for conventional RCAs, the separate ground wire is used in place of pin 1 on the XLR, and the tip and ring of the RCA correspond to pins 2 and 3 respectively (American standard; European standard reverses pins 2 and 3).
For the cable to the turntable, using shielded-twisted-pair construction helps preserve the impedance balance, and thus improves immunity to magnetically-induced hum. The tradeoff is higher capacitance, and for MM cartridges this can be a problem . . . so personally, I prefer simple coaxial phono cables of as short as practical for MMs, and shielded-twisted-pair for low-output MCs.
For the phono stage, so much of it is the designer's preferences for the particular topology, and whether or not it lends itself to a balanced input . . . because the balanced nature of the cartridge can make the noise rejection similar between the two. One can't escape the fact that an active balanced differential input generally a minimum of 3dB noisier than an unbalanced input, but whether this ends up being significant in the context of the entire circuit is another matter.