To summarize a little, I believe component is inherently 16x9, so that when you use component, aspect conversion is done by the box sending the component signal--whether DVD or STB. "Aspect" isn't any standard convention, so what your friend's TV may have is a "zoom" feature for 16x9 images.
I've got a Pio 16x9 plasma and Comcast service, but my region (Alexandria, VA) uses the Scientific Atlanta boxes. Some other areas, including the adjacent DC market, use Motorola boxes. The thing to do is run a search on the box model over at AVS Forum--http://www.avsforum.com--and you should find a thread on how to get to some "not-for-Joe-bag-o-donuts" settings on your STB. You can also try the mfr's website. You want to make sure your STB knows what resolutions, for example, your TV likes. When I watch OnDemand, I get blackbarred SD 4x3 stuff, but I do get widescreen when the movie is widescreen, so there is something funky going on.
If your box happens to be a Scientific Atlanta box (either an 8250HD or 8300HD, I've got some experience with those. Both of those are HD DVR boxes, however. Also be warned--some of the SA boxes have a DVI out, but it may not be functional. While I like the digital video interfaces with my TV, DVI and HDMI can be a PITA b/c of HDCP.
I've got a Pio 16x9 plasma and Comcast service, but my region (Alexandria, VA) uses the Scientific Atlanta boxes. Some other areas, including the adjacent DC market, use Motorola boxes. The thing to do is run a search on the box model over at AVS Forum--http://www.avsforum.com--and you should find a thread on how to get to some "not-for-Joe-bag-o-donuts" settings on your STB. You can also try the mfr's website. You want to make sure your STB knows what resolutions, for example, your TV likes. When I watch OnDemand, I get blackbarred SD 4x3 stuff, but I do get widescreen when the movie is widescreen, so there is something funky going on.
If your box happens to be a Scientific Atlanta box (either an 8250HD or 8300HD, I've got some experience with those. Both of those are HD DVR boxes, however. Also be warned--some of the SA boxes have a DVI out, but it may not be functional. While I like the digital video interfaces with my TV, DVI and HDMI can be a PITA b/c of HDCP.