What can you do about a nonselling seller?

having a situation to deal with. No comment really except to say to Jadem6-This did not start out as your discussion if that's what you are referring to. Or perhaps you are alluding to the discussion which took place regarding the discussion you were having with Lordgorian, which would or not be reflected in the ongoing discussion of others who were discussing what was the first part of your discussion without the full discussion of your discussion, that is, if that's what the discussion was about.

Jadem6, you have committed a selfless act, giving up a cable you incorporate in your system to appease Lordgorian. Kudos, worthy Audiogon'er.

Wow, Both sides of the story on one thread. What a concept! I don't think I'd be selling a cable if I didn't want to sell it. In the future you may want to put your stuff up at auction. Sounds like you may have recieved a higher price from one of at least two potential buyers (bidders).

For someone selling an item on AudiogoN, there is no protocol that I can see declaring, "The seller must sell to the first firm offer at the asking price." Posting a classified does not carry with it the implications of a contract contained in the auction process, for either the buyer or the seller. Although "first come, first served" is indeed a common selling practice, and the one that I have used myself, other factors could enter into play: form of payment, geographical proximity, previous dealings with any of the respondents, perusal of feedback, quality of communication, the subsequent offer of a higher price, waiting to receive more responses, or just a personal perogative. To me, unless a seller actually renigs on their acceptance of an offer to sell a certain item for a certain amount and form of payment to a certain buyer, no foul. In the above case, however clumsily handled (and I presume the seller feels some sense of responsibility, otherwise he would not offer to sell the second cable), the parties at least agree that the seller made no such commitment to accept the buyer's offer. It's cases like these that prompt me to always include not only all of my personal info (as recommended above by myraj), but also a reiteration of all the specifics about the item description, price, payment form, and shipping arrangements when offering or accepting an offer to buy. In addition, when I am dealing with multiple offers to buy, I respond by telling each potential customer what their "place in line" is, but this is optional - a seller could just as legitimately respond by thanking the E-mailer for their offer and saying they'll get back in touch if the item proves still available. Like they say, discretion can be the better part of valor.

Zaikesman, I think your responce is right on. As you advise a full disclosure of personal info and a reiteration of the offer would help to clearify the intrest level. The biggest problem I've had here and on ebay is sifting out the interested "tire kicker" vs. the actual buyer. I've found 99% of the people I meet here are honest and come to the table with best intentions. It is hard however for all of us, from different backgrounds, and nations at times to communicate without flaw. This is why I offered to make good, not that a mistake was made, but that my communication skills may be at fault.
It would apear this situation may resolve itself. I thought by my entering this thread an education could be had, hoping to help others in the same situation.
J.D.