I'm not sure whether improperly set anti-skating can cause significant permanent damage to records unless they are played repeatedly. Your stylus pressure of 1.9 grams seems quite standard. I have seen improperly (anti-skate) compensated styli skitter out of a groove and rip across a record with about this much stylus pressure. Of course, if the stylus pressure were high enough, this wouldn't happen, but groove damage becomes more likely.
Your comments seem to suggest that damage to the LPs is a possibility. If so, perhaps the damage occurred only where the Shelter's stylus touched the groove, and this may be a different place than where the Clearaudio stylus touches the groove. I don't really know if the styli actually have different shapes, but if they do, perhaps one is narrower and contacts the groove walls further down, i.e., deeper in the groove, than the other stylus. With this, the Clearaudio is tracking the groove walls at a level that wasn't damaged, while the Shelter would be replaying the groove where it was damaged. Other possibilities exist depending on stylus shape specifics.
I hope you are right about the whole effect being only psychological. Good luck.
Your comments seem to suggest that damage to the LPs is a possibility. If so, perhaps the damage occurred only where the Shelter's stylus touched the groove, and this may be a different place than where the Clearaudio stylus touches the groove. I don't really know if the styli actually have different shapes, but if they do, perhaps one is narrower and contacts the groove walls further down, i.e., deeper in the groove, than the other stylus. With this, the Clearaudio is tracking the groove walls at a level that wasn't damaged, while the Shelter would be replaying the groove where it was damaged. Other possibilities exist depending on stylus shape specifics.
I hope you are right about the whole effect being only psychological. Good luck.