You got that right, can't say that I've gotten a particularly warm and fuzzy feeling from any of the dealers I've encountered in NYC. As for picking a speaker, as much as I try to be methodical and deliberate about it, at some point I just can't help throwing in the towel and it really becomes a leap of faith. When I was deep into it, I managed to narrow it down to the Thiel 2.3, B&W 804 and Meadowlark Shearwater -- partly for various, arguably valid, subjective and objective reasons, and party just because I found a place where I could listen to all three of them on the same gear. So, I spent an afternoon with all three and went with the Thiels (I think I left a discussion of why on the forums someplace in a "Thiel v. Meadowlark" thread, if you have any interest).
I certainly agree, it's not unlikely that I could have come to a different conclusion on a different day for whatever reasons, so I elected not to try again and just go with it. For me, there's just so much obsessing and second guessing that I can stand before going for it (though, I must admit, my average percolation perior for this type of decision averages over a year and the "final shootout" for the speakers was a LONG time coming). If you've found that a particular speaker has it in it to make you happy, that's a pretty good indication that's exactly what it will do, if given the chance. In retrospect, though deciding (and re-deciding) what to listen with is certainly a major (and fun) part of this silly hobby, I'd likely prefer to have spent less time deciding and more time listening. From your selection, you really can't go wrong. Why not just go with your gut and let the listening enjoyment begin? Hell, if you've really got the virus, you'll end up wanting to upgrade soon enough no matter what you do...;)