You should demo for yourself to get a base line if nothing else.
I would buy used off of this site. There are really good deals to be had on Thiels, Revel, Ushers, Dynaudios, KEF, etc. there is a pair of Dynaudio C4s for $8400! Cheaper than a new pair of 803di and I am sure much better. You could also get a pair of wilson Sophia 2 for around $8,000.
The focal 1037be was better to my ear than the paradigm S8 (same room $25,000 Krell front end). Bass seemed weak on the 1037be and loose at the same time for the $11,000 price so I passed. The mids on the S8 seemed dull after hearing the 1037be 2 minutes before.
I did not like the klipsch, mids, highs and bass did not seem integrated too me. The magnepans (same dealer as klipsch) were much more tempting but the lack of build quality turned me off.