It's been said before, but I'll say it again...

It's people you are dealing with. Everyone's different. And I know it too! But, I agree with you. Also, I've encountered a few times where I make an offer and never get a reply. Wonder why because the offer wasn't a low ball. The 3-4 later I discover the item is marked as sold. The seller never bothers to reply. That's nice too.

I do agree with Chadnliz - lots of times those don't net out

Even more mysterious to me is the number of buyers who can't be bothered to take the time to confirm receipt or leave feedback - when I am selling I make it clear that I will leave feedback upon their confirmation of receipt - when I am buying I always leave feedback

I agree with most of the above. There's obviously a spectrum of politeness or chatiness, and for me even the bare minimum will do, but there IS a minimum! If this is a reflection of society as a whole, and I've unfairly singled out Audiogon, so be it. I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to hold our community to a higher standard.

09-08-07: Lousyreeds1
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If this is a reflection of society as a whole, and I've unfairly singled out Audiogon, so be it.

Unfortunately this is true. Not only on Audiogon.
Driving would be a perfect example of our society.
In NJ you can't honk the horn anymore or you automatically get a finger. Someone driving in the fast lane in the 55 limit zone doing 45mph with no cars in front of them and sticking out their finger at you when you flash the lights and beep the horn, definitely means a lot.
Or may be that's because they see my NY plates.
:)

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to hold our community to a higher standard.

Absolutely!

Just to add my last 2 cents. Just put a couple ads up after not selling anything for 6 months. Wow, I can not believe the flakes. Given the rule that the smaller the price the worse the clients I was still suprised.

The number of people who made offers and even accepted offers then disappeared was silly. At least 2 aborted transactions per item. And this is from people with good feed back.

Now I have kicked some tires, not liked the sound and walked away. But I always said 'Sorry, no thank you.' to me not responding is the rudest thing of all.