How to explain our obsessions to the uninitiated?


My father in-law asked me last night at dinner, just what makes one box more special than the other (referring to the components within a system) so much so that one can command a higher price and succeed in a competitive marketplace? I tried explaining as best I could and don't know if I did a very effective job at it. I was wondering if anyone has come across an online resource, or even a thread here that may do a good job at putting into words that someone who knows nothing about this hobby can relate with, exactly what it is that makes one component better than another and worth the price of admission? Since he expressed some interest I was thinking of pointing my father in-law to something like that if it exists. I will also take the time to try to sit him down and listen, of course, but I'd also like to find a well-articulated (hopefully brief and to the point) description of the carrot on the stick. Perhaps I'll just compose something myself. It is not the first time someone has asked me. There's always the response; "...if you have to ask, you probably won't get it anyway." I'd rather be more positive and try, at least, to share my enthusiasm, even if the likelihood may be towards the inference of that more rude response. What have your experiences been in sharing your hobby with those who otherwise wouldn't care about such things?
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Save your breath. I have tried this many times and their eyes glaze over. Friends and relatives come over and they ask me to play something. I used to try to be accomodating and ask what type of music they like. After putting it on they listened for at the most two minutes and then started a conversation with someone else. Now I don't demo to anyone unless I feel they are serious.
It is like cars or fashion clothing or golf clubs or stamps or gardening. The diversity and price ranges allow for individuality of expression from nostalgia to luxurious, from powerful loud to warm and subtle, from media touch-of-a-button-ease to precise TT arm adjustments and careful ritualistic Vinyl care. Pure performance has actually very little to with the hobby. I think for some there is also enjoyment/pride in collecting (like stamps, coins) and building your dream systems. The knowledge that one has a rare or quirky or highly cherished piece can increase the pleasure or ownership.

As for sitting down and listening to a good system - many people do not get the kind of exhilaration and bliss we audiophiles experience each and every time we listen, at least that is what I get out of it. I find myself grinning from ear to ear and many pieces of music will bring me to tears. Many people are simply unable to experience this, however, an open cab sports car on a winding European road on a hot summer day captures some of the exhilaration and a tear-jerker movie captures some of the emotion...whatever turns your crank.

You can tell your father-in-law that without passion these are indeed nothing but "boxes"...
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When trying to explain this to someone in the past I often fell back on an anology and comparative reference to collectors and connoisseurs of fine wines (of which I am not). If you are not of the "initiated" one would be hard pressed to convince you that a bottle (750mls) of some special vintage could be worth $2K-$50K when a good recent California for less than $20 would do the trick. "Why would anyone spend that kind of money on a bottle of wine which will soon be turned into something else soon after it is drunk anyway." Tvad is right in relatings it to some hobby that they have, are passionate about and spend a lot more on than you or I might. "Why would anyone spend $450K on an F 430 Ferrari when a Toyota Prius can get you there just as well." Obviously there is no answer to that question, unless you love Ferrari F430s, fine wine, Audiophilia or whatever your particular passion happens to be.